Those who have been following me would of noticed the last post I made was on day 8 of my break up. At that time, like many others in my situation have felt, I felt I had no future, that I’d never be happy nor learn to love again. I wont sugar coat things, the past month was definitely the hardest emotionally journey I’d ever experienced. Feelings of greif, heart ache, disappointment, regret, anger in myself and misguided anger at who ever was fortunate enough to cross my path when I was a bad mood. I experienced it all. I will come to my reasoning for not posting soon but first, I’d like to highlight my reasoning for coming back. The last time I posted I was in quite an emotional wreck. I am not that person anymore. Now to say that I’m fully healed or have been going on with my life like nothings happened would be a gross overstatement to say the least. I am writing this to exemplify how far I have come, bring more closure to this past period of my life and to demonstrate to others that there is light at the end. Hence this will be the last post I make on the this blog.
My reasoning for abandoning this blog…
This blog provided me with a safe place to release all my feelings, emotions and thoughts as they ran through my head. For that first week it helped hugely, some of the best advice my mate gave me was to write this blog. For those that had been following day 9 should of been my next post. That day I saw and spoke to my ex, that day gave me hope that there was a possibility that we’d soon be back together. I spent over a week not knowing what the future between us would be. Obviously that talk never amounted to anything. It was after that I decided I couldn’t come back to this blog. I felt writing about all this only forced me to continually think about her, preventing me from moving on and forcing me to remain in a depressed state of mind. To move on, I knew I had to stop focusing on all this, start accomplishing something with my life. That’s when a new era of my life began.
My accomplishments
In the past couple of weeks I’ve gone to great lengths to be constructive, creative and helpful. Constantly trying to keep myself occupied with other matters, often of greater importance than myself in an attempt to once again feel validated. To gain a sense of accomplishment. {Forgive me if I repeat anything from a previous post, I still haven’t gone back to read any of it}. I may of mentioned that through Lions (a charity organisation I belong to) that I began organising a ‘Star Wars Day’ at the children’s section of the The Royal North Shore Hospital in Sydney. Although I’m still at the beginning of this journey I have already met some incredibly brave and selfless people. Seeing the bravery in the faces of children with Cystic Fibrosis is both awe inspiring and heart warming at the same time. Many of these children don’t expect to make it much past 30 if their lucky. Yet, they always seem to have a smile on their face and demonstrate a remarkable passion for life. These are the people that deserve all the support, care and sympathy in the world. If everything goes according to plan, May 4th will see members of the 501st (a charity organisation), the Starlight Foundation, and the Lions of Beecroft Cheltenham getting together to create a fun and memorable day for the ill children stuck in hospital. There’ll be Star Wars themed crafts, games, toys and books available for the kids to play with as well as some surprise visits from their favorite characters from both the films and Clone Wars tv show. I can’t wait to see the excitement and smiles on their faces. The knowledge that your bringing a little enjoyment and happiness to those who really need it, makes any hardship or cost completely worth it. Can’t wait!!
Although the May 4th celebration is the biggest thing I’ve been working on, I’ve also being participating in lots of smaller, more personal projects. I’ll just mention a few.
Just over two weeks ago, I painted a mural in my little brothers new cubby house. Now my original plan was to paint the wall like the inside of a Star Destroyer. That was all good… Until at the last second my brother decided he wanted it painted in army patterns, like the camo on his favorite T-shirt. So of course I obliged. A couple days later, here it is. Needless to say he obsoletely loves it…
Now being a predominantly creative person, I’m glad to say I’ve finally got back into my drawing. Now I’m no professional artist but I’ve always found drawing to be a great release and source of escapism. It took me a long time to get back into drawing after the break up, but since then I haven’t looked back. I’ve been very busy in what I call my ‘sharpie book’. I drew this one because it was a light pencil sketch left in my sharpie book by my ex, she’d drawn it only weeks before our breakup. I could never bring myself to rub it out, so instead I went over it with sharpies adding my own deco and flavour to it. Obviously it’s quite Japanese inspired. The writing does say something, the Japanese character on waste says ‘Love’. I won’t revealwhat the rest is. That can be for you people out there to workout, assuming I wrote all the characters properly… at least I know what it’s meant to say. The reason I had such I hard problem getting back to drawing was my lack of inspiration. The feelings I had for my girlfriend bought me so much happiness which gave me never ending fuel for my creativity. I don’t really know what inspires me now, perhaps it’s a desire to accomplish something, to do something useful. I’ve actually gone back to my original blog which I started for uni. Now I will admit I neglected it for months but pretty much since I stopped updating this one I’ve
been there posting a whole bunch of creative and interesting things (at least things I find interesting). I’ve actually been posting some original T-shirt designs, one each week since university has gone back. Their simple designs, utilising my drawings with some simple photoshop editing, a little bit of fun really. Nothing to serious.
Lastly, this week a friend and I were asked to film the launch of the new burger range at a McDonalds store in Newcastle. We’re to present a 4min promo showcasing a local burger launch to McDonalds international executives when they visit from America. Now media production being my major at uni, I took to this assignment with great enthusiasm. We were only there a few hours but I had such a great time, met so many cool people and learnt so much about filming in the field. Although the two of us volunteered to do it as work experience, McDonalds have already done lots to reward us for our efforts even though we haven’t submitted the video yet. Editing is currently underway. We’ve only got three days to have everything edited and submitted. Not an easy task when I have multiple uni assignments going on, but I guess that’s half the fun, working to a tight deadline.
Now to sum up some of my feelings at the present…
I was madly in love with her. I would of done anything and everything for her. I cared about her more than anything thing in the world. I could of spent the rest of my life with her… But that’s no longer the way things are, I’ve accepted that. After speaking to a mentor, I came to the conclusion that I can not let another person have such a great hold over my mind. I have grieved, which is both natural and necessary, but I will no longer let a decision they made make me feel depressed. I’m in control of my own mind and I want to feel happy, I want to be excited for my future, I want to enjoy life. I may not yet be at 100%, but I know I’ll get there. Still, there are moments here and there that I think about her. But not the way I use to. I only feel disappointment in her decision, disappointment in the state of her life. From what I understood she broke up with me to find what she wants in life, to not be tied down. It seems the only new thing she found was now she can go out clubbing three times a week. What a waste. She has no money in the first place, she can’t even afford to pay her own phone bill. Her job gives her little to no shifts, she’s had one job interview that never amounted to anything, she seems only to of gone backwards since we separated. Even her friends have told me how sad it is, some of them gave up and don’t even speak to her. I don’t particularly care, I just find it sad, I thought I saw greater potential in her.Perhaps not… It’s a pity.
Signing out.
To finish off I’d like to say thank you to everyone who read my posts, I really appreciate it. Watching the views, likes and follows go up gave me confidence that I wasn’t alone, that I wasn’t the first person to go through this. It gave me strength to push through the pain and come out the other side a stronger person. So again, thank you all.
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